When new parents are handed a long-awaited envelope in the maternity hospital, they allfor some reasonThey hope that the instructions for use are included in the kit. Alas, it does not exist. And yet, unfortunately, there are no instructions for couples on how to cope with the “new” multi-functional wife.
At that moment, when the baby was born, you need to accept the fact that you will never be the same again. And husbands are often lost in the chain of these changes.
That is why the article talks about ten major changes that men have to understand and accept when their wife becomes a mother:
None of the men will ever understand what contradictory thoughts about their own bodies reign in the head of every woman after the birth of a child. On the one hand, women understandthat their body is incredible - it has just produced a human being! But on the other hand, some changes in the figure can be very frustrating and suppress.
We know it is difficult.
Together with many other metamorphoses, the stomach (one of the parts of the body that any of us so appreciates) was stretched to a very large size, as now clearly indicated by stretching.
Plus, weight gain is hateful news for any woman.
What do you do? Constantly praise and admire her, while necessarily looking into his eyes.
When shesomethingasks about your body, gently encourage her. If she is experiencingdue toextra pounds, assure her that soon everything will return to normal. Remind her that it was her body that recently gave you both the best gift in the world.
Together you still learn to live with all the changes that have come into your life, which leads to periodic bouts of tears from the young mother (the famous children's blues). Her life has completely changed and all her thoughts are swallowed by the baby.
Some obsession is part of the adaptation period, before she has yet learned to control her maternal instinct.
Everything around has become new. You both know it, but for her this novelty is very intimidating.
It seems to her that all this is a kind of exam. She had 9 months to prepare, and now X came. She assesses her capabilities, and everything is constantly changing around. In addition, all the surrounding climb with tips and tricks. This, of course, is good, but sometimes the bowl pours over the edges. She is scared and under stress.
Be aware, women try their best. They need support, love and understanding. Try to instill in her a little confidence, explaining that very soon everything will fall into place, and no one is immune from mistakes. The only thing that matters is that you go through everything together and you could not even dream of a better mother for your child.
Hugs and affection can brighten up the craziest and most difficult day in the life of a young mother.
Her mother believes that it is time for her to leave the decree. And the aunt thinks she is nursing improperly. Her friend with five children imposes a bunch of tips, because "she is experienced." Well, where without the mother-in-law, of course.
This is not easy, and the best defense here is an active standoff.
Do not meddle.When all is well, gently try to convey to her that they are all just trying to help and do not need to react so sharply. But such a conversation is appropriate only if it is more relaxed.
Newly mothers know that basically only their favorite little lump causes their monstrous lack of sleep. But it's a kid, what can you do.
So, men, you - lightning conductor! The main thing to remember is to pass. With time.
Exactly this item is more disappointing than sad. She is so tired of dressing in maternity clothes, which are often nottoo muchfashionable and beautiful.
Immediately after the birth of the child, her old things will still be small, and she does not want to buy new ones, because she must soon return to her former form.
Admire her as a mom. This can distract her, and also make sure that she ate as she should and drank a lot of water.
A woman always sees her protector in a man, and this sensation gains special significance when she becomes a mother. She wants you to protect her and protect her from the outside world. For example, if she does not want any guests at home now, your mission is to tell them about it.
Most women sincerely believe that with the advent of the child will be all and everywhere have time. Perhaps those other moms with naughty children and uncleaned apartmentssomethingnot this way. But motherhood quickly squeezes out all the juices. And even worse, not many can admit it. Give your wife personal permission to rest, let him watch TV or sleep while the baby is sleeping. If she tries to argue, remind you that you are just trying to protect her. From yourself.
Believe me, she will appreciate.
She likes to see dad in you. She likes to listen to your words that this little one changes you so much. She loves the fact that the baby has your fingers and ears. Maybe it seems illogical, but the closer you are to the child, the closer to her. To be the only spectator on the film, where the main, father's role, you play is priceless.