We all want our children to become leaders. We want our children to grow bold, resolute and strong. We want their actions to inspire other people to become better, to get more out of life than they thought possible. How to help a child become a leader?
The path to the leadership of children in our hands. We can build and teach the necessary skills that will help them to realize themselves and lead others in this hyper-competitive world, or we can allow them to become victims of the type of thinking that will make them slaves to the status quo.
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These recommendations will help you develop leadership qualities in your children, and at the same time in yourself.
Develop Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
Emotional intelligence is something intangible in each of us that affects how we manage our behavior, overcome social difficulties and make personal decisions that ensure the achievement of positive results.
Children learn emotional intelligence from their parents.Your children look at you every day, they absorb your behavior like sponges. Children learn from you, show emotions, watch how you react to their strong emotions.
Emotional intelligence is one of the most important qualities for success in leadership. TalentSmart experienced over a million people and found that emotional intelligence is responsible for 58% of the leader’s productivity. Similarly, 90% of the most effective leaders have high emotional intelligence.
Most people do too little to develop the emotional intelligence of their children. Only 36% of people tested are able to pinpoint their emotions as they occur. Children who develop a high level
EQs use these skills in adulthood, and this gives them the opportunity to be one step ahead in leadership and in life.
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Do not be obsessed with achievements
Parents are simply obsessed with the achievements of children, believing that this will make them more successful. Instead, fixing on achievements creates various problems for children. This is especially noticeable when it comes to leadership, where focusing on individual accomplishments gives children the wrong idea of how the work is done.
Simply put, the best leaders surround themselves with great people, because they know that they cannot do the work alone. Obsessed with achievements, children are so focused on personal reward and result that they can never understand it.
Do not praise too much
How to praise a child so as not to harm his self-esteem? Children need praise to create a healthy sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, the installation of praise does not give them an extra sense of self-worth. Children need to believe in themselves and develop the self-confidence necessary to become successful leaders, but if you gush forth every time they take a pen or kick a ball, it creates confusion and false confidence. Always show your children how proud you are of their efforts, but do not say that they are superstars if you know that this is not true.
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Allow them to experience risk and failure.
Success in business and in life is driven by risk. When parents hold their children behind their backs to protect them, they do not allow them to take risks and reap the benefits.When you cannot fail, you do not understand the risk. A leader cannot take appropriate risks until he or she knows the bitter taste of failure that comes with risk.
The road to success is paved with failures. When you try to protect your children from failure, in order to increase their self-esteem, you are depriving them of the opportunity to learn to put up with failures, and this is a skill for a leader. Give them the opportunity to save their face while doing so. Children need your support when they fail. They should know that you care. They need to know that you know how hard it is to endure failure. Your support allows them to gain experience. This is important for shaping the character of future leaders.
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Excessive pampering of children is a sure way to limit their development as leaders. To succeed as a leader, you need to be able to postpone satisfaction and work on what really matters. Children must develop patience. They must set goals and experience the joy and satisfaction of work.Having said no to your children, you will disappoint them for a moment, but then they will get beyond that. They will never get more if they are spoiled.
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Let the children solve their own problems.
Leaders must be autonomous. When parents constantly solve their problems for children, children do not learn to stand on their own feet. Children who are accustomed to something, there is always someone who can save them or remove their disorder, spend their entire lives waiting for this to happen. Leaders act. They take responsibility. They are conscious and responsible. Make sure your children are the same.
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Show that you are human
No matter how outrageous and defiant your children behave at some point, you are still their hero and their role model. This may force you to hide your past mistakes, for fear that they may repeat them. It is not right. When you do not show your imperfection and vulnerability, your children develop a sense of guilt because of each failure, because they believe that they are the only ones who make such terrible mistakes.
To develop leadership skills, children need to know that people to whom they are equal are not infallible. Leaders must be able to recognize their mistakes, learn from them, and move forward to become better. Children cannot do this when guilt takes over. They need someone, present and vulnerable, who will teach them how to be aware of mistakes and learn from them. When you show them how you did it in the past, you do exactly that.