Most parents believe that children and patience are incompatible concepts.But phrasing French moms and dads think differently! They are sure that the children can be patient!
We bring to your attention a few tips on patience from the book “French children do not spit food” by Pamela Drukerman’s book.
1. The method of "framework":“From the mouth of the French, the phrase -n‘amporte quoi (as you please) sounds very often. According to the French, children who behave in this way do not know the limitations; their parents are not authority. And this is absolutely not consistent with the French ideal “cadre” (framework), which the local parents say they are following. Children within this framework are given a sufficiently large freedom of action. ”
2. Even the youngest children can wait., you only need to give the child a chance to try: “The generally accepted opinion in France is that even little ones can wait - to some extent a legacy of that era, when children were required to be submissive and sit quietly.But, in addition, the French are simply confident that even babies are not alien to rational thinking and ability to learn. According to this approach, rushing to feed the child on the first squeak, we treat the baby as a dependent person. But if we had allowed him to suffer a little, it would be a sign of respect. ”
3. Children can safely accept rejection., you just need to be consistent and uncompromising and not indulge in hysterics: “The ability to perceive failure is the first step in development. Children are beginning to realize that there are other people in the world and that these people have needs that are no less important than their own. French psychologists believe that learning should start from 3-6 months. Forcing the child to wait, mom lays down the idea of time. The small disappointments that the parents force to test the child, without ceasing to love him at the same time, subsequently, at the age of 2 to 4 years, will help the child to realize that he is not omnipotent. ”