The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

You swear to yourself and to everyone that you will listen to advice and will never call or write to your ex again. Not to mention going to where he works or lives.
He was already interested in how you do after your separation. If he only knew about all those messages that you never sent, or about how many times your hand reached for the phone to dial his number.

Your friends are doing everything they can to help you hold out and not mess with him again. They take your phone when you're drunk, when you're bored, and especially when you get that look and you start to remember how good everything was with you.

And yet somehow, but you still wrote to him.And not just once, not twice - but once 10, or 20, or 80. It is embarrassing, but you can’t stop yourself. You went out of control and went crazy.

But there is good news about why we write so obsessively to our ex after we leave, why we like people who we don’t like us anymore.

There is a psychological reason.This is a behavioral process known as the last jerk — a temporary increase in the frequency, duration, and magnitude of the target reaction.

This can be compared to how you call the elevator. You press the button as usual, and if he doesn’t come, you don’t just turn around and walk? No, you press the button a few more times to make sure that it doesn’t work. You try to press harder, hold longer, press quickly several times in a row ...

When you continue to call and write to your ex, although you know that you should not do this, in fact you take the first step to stop this behavior.If he never responds, in the end you will stop "pressing this button and trying to call the elevator."

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  • The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us

    The psychological reason why we keep writing to people who ignore us