There is such a thing as the “curse of a good guy.” Is it possible to be too good? Men all over the world wonder why women constantly deny the seemingly perfect guys - loving, caring, loyal. Do not these qualities appear in the list of requirements of each woman to a man?
This mystery and tormented me for many years, until I finally solved it. There are several factors that deter women from too good men.
At the initial stage of relationships, many men really try to make a woman happy. They even climb from skin to do it. And when they reach a close relationship, they want to be one step ahead. They begin to put a woman above all and all. And although this may seem a way to make a woman happy, usually the effect is exactly the opposite.
Do not get me wrong, every woman may like it at first.Everyone wants to feel that she is the most important thing in the life of a man. But in fact, she does not want to be the most important in his life.
Because when this happens, her interest in him begins to disappear. If he makes her the center of his life, that scares her.
She begins to resent it, and then lose respect for him when he constantly adjusts to her whims. Over time, her interest in him will simply disappear.
Gradually, the woman begins to realize that something has changed. Something is missing. And here too good guy tries to find out what is wrong - and the woman answers him only with irritation and disappointment. Why? Simply put, because a woman is hard to express her emotions with words. She just either feels it or not.
Remember the beginning of a relationship when you both had a spark and a sense of special connection between you. You probably had your own life, your goals, interests and hobbies.That which should never have changed.
However, if a man devotes his life, time and energy to a woman, he loses touch with what makes him who he really is. And when he loses touch with himself, she loses touch with the fact that she was initially attracted to him.
Now this is a man whose life revolves only around her. He becomes all-consuming, whose sole purpose is to satisfy the desires of his woman.He becomes overly sensitive to her whims and does his best to make her happy. In essence, he is constantly trying to win her love and approval.
No woman will be happy with a guy who makes her the center of her universe and constantly rotates around her. Some women may like the idea that it was so, but when it actually happens, they get bored and they leave. And the reason is that it kills the feeling of attraction and attraction that was the source of all the senses.
All women want and deserve to be loved, respected and cared for.What they do not want is a man, whose personality, whose decisions and life motivation are determined by his desire to please a woman.