There are rare cases when school love develops into a strong marriage to the end of life. But most often it is only the so-called test relationship. We grow, develop, know ourselves, establish ourselves as a person and finally realize what kind of person we need - and most often he is far from the person we were in love with in high school.
But sometimes many of us simply do not know when and how to put an end to the first test relationship, thank the person for the experience and go further, already separately. Even science has proven that parting is harder to experience for men (surprised?), Because they more often remain in bad relationships than women.
Nuance: yes, a man may be guilty of parting, be his cause, but the initiator is more often a woman. There are several psychological factors behind this behavior of men:
1. Men are afraid that they have spent too much time.. It's really stupid to say that your past relationships were a waste of time.If you have at least learned something, understood something about yourself, about relationships or about parting, then you grew up as individuals. It is an experience, not a waste of time.
2. Men think they can build relationships.In relationships, everything does not happen smoothly, but it is necessary to distinguish between ordinary problems and insurmountable difficulties. A man often hopes that everything will be resolved, otherwise it will be ... see point 1 - a waste of time, but they are afraid of it. Because waiting. In addition, the separation activates the same area of the brain as physical pain, so it is natural to postpone it for as long as possible.
3. Men feel the need to keep their emotions under control.Men are not as emotional as women. Most of them do not share their feelings with family and even friends: the guys do not cry to each other in a vest. The only person they can usually reveal to is their woman. Because when there is a risk that she leaves, the man tries to delay this moment as long as possible.